Ways to Boost Passion in a Relationship
Relationships, like many things in life, go through many stages. In the beginning, the biochemistry of the initial “falling in love” feeling is unlike what most people will experience down the road. This is a period when everything is new and exciting, and lust and desire are at an all-time high. Things flow very easily in most relationships at this stage, and there are virtually no areas of needed improvement since both parties are still getting to know each other. The novelty factor is exciting, and it is common for both parts to show up at their best.
However, as time passes and relationships evolve, couples become more familiar with each other, and the urgency to chase, court, please and seduce the other part dissipates. It doesn't disappear, but it takes a back seat in priorities. After this honeymoon period, it is common to start having disagreements and problems in the relationship. Everyday life takes center stage, and some couples find that all that passion that was present in the beginning is gone.
This is absolutely normal, and most lovers go through it. The secret to a lasting and loving relationship is finding ways to keep that initial spark alive. Relationships like everything else need to be nurtured and cultivated, and this requires work from both parties. There are several ways that will help fire up that spark again and keep it that way.
Experts consider communication the most important aspect in keeping relationships alive and ensuring that interpersonal exchanges between the parties are positive and proactive. Problems and differences of opinion will arise in every relationship. If there is no easy way to talk through and resolve them, the parties may become distanced over time. This could even lead to diminished attraction towards one another and feelings of resentment and frustration.
When talking about communication in a romantic relationship, it may be beneficial to learn your love languages. This is a great way to know preferences in the way you and your partner express and experience love, and it is conducive to ensuring that both parties are getting what they need. You can take short quizzes online with your partner or by yourself, and this information will come in very handy.
The five love languages are:
Words of affirmation
Acts of Service
Think about the last time you felt ignored by your partner. Maybe he gave you his undivided attention, and you still felt neglected because you did not get any words of affirmation, which could be your love language. This guide takes the guessing out of the equation and helps couples enhance and deepen their relationship.
It is also worth mentioning that communication is not limited to solving conflicts. When couples have been together for a long time, they assume that they know everything there is to know about each other and forget to keep talking about their passions, opinions, and life goals. This brings us to our next point.
A meaningful way to maintain desire, both to and from one another, is to keep the interest or curiosity alive when it comes to the other person. You may see your partner every day and assume that you know everything there is to know about this person. But more often than not, couples stop asking each other questions under this assumption, which could lead to feelings of not caring about the relationship, thus slowly extinguishing the fire.
This is also vital to promote communication with your partner about things that don't include day-to-day logistics, conflict solving, or different tedious themes. It helps to remember the importance of just enjoying each other's company and getting to know each other all over again. People change over time, and so do their likes, dislikes, goals, and expectations. Couples should make an effort to maintain curiosity about each other all the time, thus reinforcing their initial enthusiasm. A great way to set the stage for these encounters is date nights.
A great way to foster curiosity is to implement frequent date nights. Carving out time weekly to spend with each other in a relaxed environment will set the stage for better communication and intimacy. Dates could include a simple dinner out, cooking a meal together at home, or even sharing a hobby or activity.
Daily routines and activities can make a relationship feel monotonous and boring. There is not much excitement to look forward to with your partner, and you can see where this could lead. Passion can arise from having fun with your partner while doing something you both enjoy. It reminds couples why they fell in love with each other in the first place, and it keeps the spark alive and burning.
Date nights are crucial for relationships to retain or rekindle their spark. One reason is to reestablish closeness and reinforce friendship. It is easier to go through life with all of its ups and downs with someone that you feel “has your back” at any given moment.
This helps promote emotional connectedness, which for many, constitutes a necessary factor in generating sexual desire. It rekindles the other person's passion and infatuation and helps create and promote lust and excitement.
A crucial factor in relationships is feeling wanted by the other person. Sex by itself may be lovely, but without an emotional connection and a feeling of longing, it reduces to merely sensations. Science has taught us time and time again that sex is not only about having orgasms but also about feeling needed, desired, loved, and understood. Studies show that physical touch increases oxytocin, a hormone that boosts positive emotions. The more often you and your partner experience intimacy together, the more these hormones can flourish.
Nowadays, there are many products that can boost libido and sexual satisfaction. An up-and-coming product in this area is CBD (cannabinoid). It is the second most prevalent of the active ingredients of cannabis, and it is derived directly from the hemp plant. It does not have psychoactive effects, so it does not make a person feel “high,” but a lot of research suggests its therapeutic potency in many different areas.
There are many reasons why this is believed to enhance libido and performance. Some of them have to do with reducing stress and anxiety, including performance anxiety, reducing pain from chronic conditions, and increasing our natural neurotransmitters and endorphins that boost mood and pleasure.
CBD oil can be used orally in pill form or edibles, but it can also be used topically in personal lubricants, massage lotions, and oral sprays. There are many cannabinoid receptors in the reproductive organs and sexual tissues, and when CBD is applied in the area as a personal lubricant, it can increase blood flow and sensitivity, and in some studies, people report having more intense and frequent orgasms.
There are many other ways that can also help spice up a couple’s sex life. These can include discussing and acting on sexual fantasies, adding sex toys and accessories, sending flirtatious messages throughout the day to increase excitement and anticipation, and even role-playing or dressing up.
Going to couples therapy can be another great way to open up and discuss ways to improve emotional and physical connectedness. Therapists can help open people up to sharing things that they might not share independently. Therapists can also provide helpful tips, exercises, and activities to rekindle the fire.
The Bottom Line
All of these methods can work individually or in conjunction, but the most important aspect to remember is recognizing when the relationship is in a funk and understanding that this is perfectly normal. This way, both parties can actively discuss and participate in choosing the best way to reignite passion and desire in their lives and reconnect on every aspect, including mental, physical, and emotional.
The word “work” is emphasized in this article because it is important to remember that relationships need constant fostering and nurturing. It is a great idea to check in often with one another and talk about some of the aspects that need improvement. The more time and effort couples invest in their relationship, the more they will enjoy the benefits of a loving and passionate relationship.